Dealing with Difficult People

Have you EVER dealt with difficult people?

I found some material online that teaches us how to deal with them! :D

First, lets identify 3 types of difficult people:

One who drains others – By nature, their depressing and negative attitude characterizes them as “life suckers.” They frequently aggravate and deplete us. They complain, but refuse to accept solutions or take steps to improve their circumstances.

One who disrespects others – Through their constant criticism, we find ourselves consistently on the defense. Their blunt, even cruel remarks frequently leave scars that linger as abuse. They may be unsympathetic and practice excessive rudeness and ridicule at our expense.

One who dominates others – Any aggressive nature which dominates our workplace (or home) through intimidation is destructive. Boldness and assertiveness give way to a meanness that ignores the harmful consequences. The dominating person believes “might is right.”

How to Cope

When dealing with difficult people, we must accept that we cannot control the attitude of others. Regardless of our efforts, we cannot change another person’s heart. In fact, the Bible even speaks to this: “For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, eagerness for lustful pleasure, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness” (Mark 7:21-22).

We also can become a “difficult person” when we judge another individual. God has a way of dealing with critical people:  “Stop judging others, and you will not be judged. For others will treat you as you treat them. Whatever measure you use in judging others, it will be used to measure how you are judged” (Matthew 7:1–2).

Dealing with difficult people requires qualities that go against our human nature. We are all resistant to change our opinions, especially if it requires laying down our rights. But when we reflect God’s nature, His peace can transform the most difficult of relationships. When we  overlook another’s faults, God looks over us. “. . . Clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others . . . And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts . . .” (Colossians 3:12-15).

Hope you find this material useful(:

Unrequited Love

by Amiee Fairchild 


Relationships are a pain
Especially loving someone in vain
Knowing that no matter what you say
He loves someone else that way

Looking at the person you love
Can be a painful thing not from above
Knowing that he doesn't love you like that
Wishing the couple would have a spat

Feeling like you've lost your best friend
Knowing he won't love you in the end
Hoping one day he will change his mind
Wishing that your heart he would find

In the dark you stand
Watching him hold her hand
Wishing you could just hate his guts
Why does this feeling make you so nuts

Wanting to talk to him hours on end
Even when you know he has a girlfriend
Watching him play with her curls
Wishing it was you instead of that girl

Knowing one day you'll make it through
But all the while wishing it was just you
That's the feeling of unrequited love
Something most definitely not from above


I don't agree that the feeling of unrequited love is not something from above.
I think God feels unrequited love from many of us. God loves every single one of us but yet only some respond to Him, not all...

Battle.

Everyday is a battle.
A battle to fight against the devil, against my self-centered me.

It is so easy to get lost in the things of the world.
They just dazzle in front of you.
Luxury items, money, fame, status, fortune........ the list goes on~

But God is good. He is always faithful. He will not forsake me. ♣

Can't take my eyes off you (Rock)

really ♥ this song ever since i heard it during mass dance for jc.
(though the old version is still preferred)

Please still enjoy this new twist~ ROCK!!! ♥♥♥

Grace Cafe

for someone close to my heart ♥

卡門 電影《野玫瑰之戀》by 葛蘭

Enjoy(:

Verse for today.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge Him,
and He will make your paths straight.


Proverbs 3:5-6

Wagyu Beef @ Sho Teppan (Orchard Ion)

This Japanese restaurant is located at B3-19 in Orchard Ion.
Chanced upon it during my first visit to Ion and I've been going back for moreeeeeeeeeeee. Actually, the smell caught my attention. Too yummy to resist!

Yesterday evening, I brought my parents to eat (but I didn't foot the bill).
>.< still a poor student..

So I introduced my parents to wagyu beef teppan @ SGD21.90++
It comes with miso soup, rice and salad. Oh, and FREE hot green tea!(:

The rice is soft and fluffy. Miso soup a tad too salty. But the salad was goooood.
Wagyu beef is placed in a metal pot with shredded carrot, onions, spring onion, sliced mushrooms(I assume shiitake since japanese like them), sweet sauce(probably some special sauce they mixed) and sprinkle with white sesame seeds.
/sizzles~
Smells reaaaaally good when you start stir-frying.

My set(I took out my wagyu beef from the metal pot in attempt to prevent them from being overcooked.)

I have to agree with my dad that the sauce used for wagyu beef teppan(that evening) was too sweet.
Plus salty miso soup, we needed more rice to go along with it!
Hmm... I didn't have this problem last year when I visited with my guy.
Quality dropped? Maybe. But I still finished everything! :x

My mother ordered wagyu beef sukiyaki(SGD 20.90++). She wanted more veggie and its a healthier choice(everything boiled but not as tasty compared to teppan).
BUT! It is not their signature dish. Wagyu Beef Teppan is their signature dish. ^-^
Well, I forgot to mention that you get to choose either udon or rice for sukiyaki.

Displayed 'food' outside the restaurant.

Didn't manage to get a picture of her actual food. And I didn't get a good before and after picture of mine coz` hungry la. Next time I will get them for you!(:

Yes, there are other types of meat/choices in the menu.
But I feel that Wagyu is the most value-added one.

Oh, if you are thinking of eating and chit-chatting after meal. DON'T.
Not an ideal place for such activities. I felt pressurised to order more or pay the bill as the service crew walked around with their PDAs after clearing the table. >.<
Good for the tastebuds and stomach only! :D

Today

Today I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.

Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.

Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.

Today I can mourn my lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.

Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body and soul.

Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me.
I get to choose what kind of day I will have, so can you!(: